How New Model Standards for Divorce & Family Mediation are Raising the Bar in New York
In 2025, the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), along with ABA, APFM, and ACR, released revised Model Standards for Family and Divorce Mediation to reflect growing demand for fairness, ethics, and clarity in mediation processes. AFCC
These changes are meaningful for anyone considering mediation on Long Island — whether you’re just beginning or in the middle of a dispute. Here’s what you should know, and why working with a mediator who follows these standards can make a real difference.
What the Revised Model Standards Include
- Self-determination & informed decision-making: The updates emphasize ensuring that each party has real capacity to participate, understands the process, and is not under pressure. AFCC
- Accessibility and barrier mitigation: Recognizing that issues like language barriers, disability, or lack of information can prevent people from truly participating, there are new expectations for mediators to adjust the process to be inclusive. AFCC
- Initial education of parties: Before mediation begins, each participant should be educated about the process, their rights, possible outcomes, and what mediation can and cannot do. This helps set realistic expectations and reduces surprises. AFCC
Why It Matters for Long Island Clients
- Mediation that follows these standards tends to be more transparent, fair, and durable. Agreements made under rigorous standards are less likely to be contested later.
- Clients on Long Island often deal with complex issues — custody, high-value assets, co-parenting conflict. A mediator who follows updated standards helps ensure those issues are handled ethically.
- It shows professionalism — attorneys and mediators who align with these standards generally have stronger reputations, which can influence settlement dynamics and client confidence.
What You Should Ask from Your Mediator or Attorney
When choosing a mediator in your divorce or family law case, especially on Long Island, consider asking:
- Do you adhere to the 2025 revised Model Standards for family/divorce mediation?
- How do you ensure both parties are fully informed and capable of participation?
- What accommodations do you provide if someone has limited English, has a disability, or lacks legal knowledge?
- How do you educate clients at the start so people know what to expect (including risks, limitations, legal enforceability)?
If you’re exploring mediation in a divorce or custody matter, make sure you have a practitioner who follows the latest, ethical standards. Todd Zimmer Law in Long Island is fully committed to the updated Model Standards, offering clarity, fairness, and strong advocacy. Contact us today for a free consultation to learn how we approach mediation differently — and with integrity.
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